When asked to analyze your identity, it seems easy at first. I could think of a few things right away; friendly, Godly, energetic. But i realized these things just describe who i am in a sense, they don't define my identity. I feel as though i still have a lot to learn about my identity, and i am on a journey to find out who i really am.
I could label myself in many ways, daughter, sister, girlfriend, friend, and a leader. Each role that i play, i act a little different. Being a daughter and a sister feels almost the same to me, i carry almost the same roles for both, but because i am the oldest sister, my siblings look up to me. Therefore i must watch my actions. Normally around my family, i would consider myself to be very real. I may act a little crazy, and do things that might be embarrassing in front of others. My family acts the same, and i believe we are this way because we are so comfortable with each other. We all know each others secrets and weaknesses, so what is there to hide?
The roles i play in being a girlfriend and friend are by far two of the hardest. These are relationships where you must show feeling, and work at in order to keep. In the end, they are the most rewarding. Being a girlfriend is wonderful. I get to share something with a person who means the world to me. It is a very special relationship, and i am learning how to become an open person, which in turn helps me deal with my friendships and family too.
I have learned that it is harder to form face to face relationships for me. I tend to be reserved around people i don't know, and it takes a while for me to come out of my shell. Once i do, i am a very fun loving and humorous person. Because face to face relationships are harder for me, i do tend to spend more time online or on my phone. Talking to people through Facebook or texting is easier and you don't have to worry about looking and feeling your best when "speaking". Don't get me wrong, i still enjoy a good face to face conversation, but sometimes using electronics is just easier.
I do believe that sometimes being online constantly creating friendships can have a downside. In order to keep friendships, and to become better at communicating in person, you need to be out there talking and interacting in "real life". How will you figure out your identity if you are spending all your time online or on the phone? Interacting with people is what really helps you to form your identity, and figure out who you really are. Trying new things and dealing with life is wonderful! These things shape you into YOU.
I don't think your identity is only one description. I think you have so many things that make up your identity, wether that be different types of identities in different surroundings, or a long list of things that make up one big identity. I still am not sure who i really am, but i am aware of the roles i play in life, and the things i want to be in the future. I know what i want, and i am positive that i will find out what i need to know in this journey of life.
